Letting Go of Mistakes

As we go through life, each of us is bound to make mistakes. It is a fact of life. I hate making mistakes. There was a time in my life when I became very angry, embarrassed, and bitter for making mistakes. I would often take my anger out on others because of the mistakes I made. My anger and bitterness would then consume and impede my present or future fulfillment. I was robbing myself.

Now that kind of strategy simply does not make sense. Maybe some of you are caught in this same kind of trap. I think in my case anyway, it came down to a fear of failure or becoming too concerned about what others thought.

Maybe you have experienced this at work when you are being evaluated on how you performed on a certain task. You may be overly concerned about past performance. If you are asking yourself-"How did I do?", you may be too concerned about past mistakes made. Yes we can learn from past mistakes, but we should not be consumed by them.

Picture holding on to a balloon, then letting it go, and watching it drift slowly up into the sky never to return. You can do the same with your past mistakes. Just let them go.

Don't let past mistakes immobilize you. You have to accept the past. You can't return to it. You did the best you could for the situation you were in at the time. It is not necessary to judge yourself. You can be free from the past by living in the present and enjoying it. Learn from the past but live in the present. Fulfillment can be yours today by letting go.

David Croston
Motivational Concepts and Training


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Must decide now and can't make a mistake

Some folks believe there are no bad decisions.Af If you turn left instead of right, you think you've made a mistake -- till you realize this detour is actually a shortcut to the destination of your dreams.

But if you're standing at a fork in the road, here are some guidelines that others have found helpful.

1. Know who you are and what you want -- today. You spent a life as the quintessential urban resident and now seek the countryside. You enjoyed twenty years of law or medicine or sales, and now you find yourself writing poetry and making time to help a third-grader learn to read. Yesterday's decision rules won't work any longer.

2. Be willing to walk away if you're not ready to sign on the dotted line. You always have choices. If you're supposed to have that house or that job, it will be there tomorrow.

3.Share your plans with friends, family and colleagues. Pay attention to how you feel when you share. Pay less attention to their reactions.

4 Uncertainty is a sign that you need more information. Talk to people who have been there. Book knowledge and internet knowledge will be outdated by the time you read it.

5. If you turn right, what is the worst that could happen -- a year from now? Five years down the road? How does that compare to the worst case scenario of turning left?


6. Some people sleep soundly when they don't know where they will get the next mortgage payment. Others toss and turn when their checking account falls below ten thousand dollars. When you live in your own comfort zone, you attract more opportunity.


7, Decisiveness may be valued by your corporate or social culture. In a transition, fast decisions can actually slow you down. Most people have more energy for starting up than starting over.

8. Intuition is your source of power. Keep your batteries charged. Meditate, write in a journal, spend solitary time outdoors. If you feel uncertain or intimidated, go away until you feel stronger.

9. Don't dive right in. Dip a toe into the water. Warm? Start wading. Do you find yourself waving good-by to the people left behind? Are your toes curling happily into the wet sand? Or are you finding sharp rocks, icy water and harsh tides? Do you feel ready to take off and swim to the other side of the world? You can still turn back, but do you want to?

10. Once you've committed to the decision, keep looking ahead. One of my happiest friends says, "I don't agonize over a decision. I assume whatever I chose is right for me and go full speed ahead."

At the same time, remember that few decisions turn into a life sentence. You can always review your new life, get out the maps, and chart a new course for your future.

Cathy Goodwin


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