Worry

The harm that worry causes in our lives has been well documented by health professionals and others. Worry can weaken and sicken us, and make our days unbearable. At the very least, it prevents us from living fully and happily the only life that we will ever have. At its worse, it can destroy us.

"A god, invisible but omnipotent. It steals the bloom from the cheek and lightness from the pulse; it takes away the appetite and turns the hair gray." - Benjamin Disraeli (1804-1881)

It does a lot more than that, Benjamin!

But the worry disease can be cured and it certainly can be reduced. Of course it requires a change in our thinking - how to view and react to situations. Worrying over things that 'might' happen can waste large portions of our lives, considering that so often it is for nothing, and almost certainly does no good.

"If you can solve your problem, then what is the need of worrying? If you cannot solve it, then what is the use of worrying?" - Shantideva

Worrying about things that have happened will not turn back the hands of time to give you another try at doing it right. So that is a waste of time too. So many of our anxieties and fears are for nothing. Most of the rest can simply be discarded because worrying just isn't going to do any good. So let's spend our time thinking about the good and pleasant things in our lives, and move on in a peaceful and contented state of mind.

"I think these difficult times have helped me to understand better than before how infinitely rich and beautiful life is in every way and that so many things that one goes around worrying about are of no importance whatsoever." - Isak Dinesen

A program to become knowledgeable on the subject of worry, through reading and other instruction, can help in turning our lives around. A life filled with contentment and lacking stress and worry are the goals to be achieved.

It's never too late to start eliminating worry.

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Life

"Be happy while you're living, for you're a long time dead." - Scottish Proverb

Everyone says, "How the time flies." The days go by and they are years, and the years finally become our whole life. Each daily portion can be wasted, or it can be a pleasure, before it is gone forever. If a bedtime review of the day concludes that we were too stressed, too busy, didn't accomplish anything, didn't have any fun, then it has been another lost piece of precious life.

Perhaps we are putting off our enjoyment until we have more time, or money, or some other improved condition. The trouble with that is that it might never happen, or it may be too long in coming. It's so important to accept this time, this very minute, as something of tremendous value that will very soon be gone forever. There are many ways to ensure that we make the best of our time here on earth.

In our daily routine let's include time to enjoy others and thus ourselves. Look and wonder at the trees, fields and mountains, smell the flowers, hear the birds, and watch the clouds in the sky.

"This world, after all our science and sciences, is still a miracle wonderful, magical and more, to whosoever will think of it." - Thomas Carlyle (1795-1881)

Face your problems bravely, confidently, and improve on your situation, no matter what state it be in. Be good to feel good. Be active and improve your mind. Laugh, relax, and sleep well.

Life is mostly froth and bubble
Two things stand like stone
Kindness in another's trouble,
Courage in our own. - Adam Gordon (1833-1870)


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You Can Choose

You can choose to be annoyed by just about everything. But why would you wish to be annoyed by anything? As easily as you can choose to be annoyed, you can choose to be peaceful, patient and understanding. Instead of putting your energy into being annoyed, you can put it into more valuable and productive pursuits.

Would you like to make yourself into a victim, or would you prefer to be firmly in control of your life? Peaceful patience, tolerance and acceptance will keep you in control.

If there is a situation that needs to be changed, take action to make that change happen. Don't waste your time with being annoyed.

The next time you encounter a situation that would normally annoy you, stop and remember that you have another choice. Instead of letting outside events control your attitude, choose to control it yourself.

Being annoyed is a waste of your life. Be peaceful, calm and powerful instead.

Ralph Marston


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Rise above frustration

Put your frustrations in perspective, and most of them will disappear. Refuse to get caught up in them, and those frustrations will have no power over you.

Small inconveniences and minor disappointments can lead to major disruptions if you let them. But you don't have to let them.

When you feel frustration starting to overwhelm you, choose to step back a little bit. Sure, the situation may be absurd and outrageous, but is it really all that important?

Your ego likes to make you blow the little things far out of proportion, because it's an easy way to feel important. Yet it can also be an enormous waste of your time and energy, not to mention the negative impact it has on your attitude.

As much as possible, give the frustrations some distance. Get away from them to a place where you can calmly think through your options, and you'll find that there's almost never any need to be frustrated.

Rise above the pettiness of wasteful frustrations, with a smile on your face and generosity in your heart. And you'll be able to clearly see a fast, effective, fulfilling way forward.

Ralph Marston


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There is a solution to every problem

This type of thinking is embodied by every winner, champion, and achiever. They are solution oriented and believe nothing is impossible. When they come across a problem, they immediately look for a solution. And since we always find what we look for, they will ultimately find a solution and move on. When defeatists run smack into a problem, they stop dead in their tracks and look for someone or something to blame. The result? Progress come to a screeching halt! Which assumption is empowering? Which leads to success?

Chuck Gallozzi


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Negative thinking leads to negative assumptions!

Most people aim at nothing and hit it accurately. Many people who do plan, plan, and plan some more, never reach their goals. Others plan, take action, and seem to succeed without much struggle. Why do some people fail while others succeed?

Success is achieved by planning action and taking action. However, before defining goals and putting together an action plan, it is important to do a self-evaluation. This evaluation must extend deep in one's attitude.

Now I am not saying that having a good attitude will bring you success. What I am saying is that your attitude must be in line with the results you want to achieve. you must examine your inner self and know why you are striving for the goals you say you want to achieve.

Build your attitude positively from the inside out. Begin by building a sustainable motivating attitude. Plan your goals around your strengths and build on your personal confidence in all you do. Over time, you will find yourself achieving more.

TIP - Do not internally focus on the negative, focus on what you can achieve. When one focuses on what can go wrong or what is going wrong, they tend to dig themselves deeper in a pool of negativity and non-accomplishment. Positive thinking and positive doing will nurture you toward success.


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Rules For A Perfect Day

Just for today...

I will try to live and delight in the reality of being alive. My past is forever gone, my future an uncertainty, so I will be happy and thankful for each moment.

I will not allow negative input into my mind... happiness is a choice and I choose to be happy.

I will be thankful to God for my health, my loved ones, my business, and my country. I will also be thankful for any pain in crisis that helps me grow because God has said, be thankful in all things.

I will take care of my body, realizing the importance of the words moderation and balance, knowing that as I bring my flesh under control, how much easier it will be to control my will and my actions.

I will treat everyone I meet today the way I would like to be treated. I will strive to have them like themselves better when they're with me.

I will avoid gossip, jealousy, and negative thinking. Most people don't think about what they think about. Today, I will make a conscious effort to hold loving and beautiful thoughts in my mind.

I will write down my priorities; thinking of my loved ones and my responsibilities. I may not get everything done, but I will do the most productive thing possible at every given moment.

I will strive to humble myself before others, controlling my ego and making other people feel important.

I will spend time in study, learning how to better serve my fellowman. I know my growth in all areas is in direct proportion to the service I give to others.

I will not take rejection personally. I am first and foremost in the people business and, thus, realize they can only reject my proposal and not me. I will keep on keepin' on.

I will spend time in prayer, asking God to let others see the light of His shining love through me.

Tom Hopkins


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Poem AN OPERATION OF STRENGTH

Having lived most of my years
Under the fate of a surgeon's skill and knife
It's enough to lead me to tears
That health was never a stability in my life

Living in this life of doom
Most of my childhood being ill
Many a day in a hospital room
Remembrace sends through my spine a chill

I am blesses to be alive
There must be a mission I must perform
So I will endeavor to strive
Even through the current surgery I'll bravely weather
the storm

Though fear is evident to see
I will be strong in the absence of light
To connquer I will think positively
THAT EVERYTHING WILL BE ALRIGHT


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Poem FREEDOM IS EMOTION REVEALED

Be not ashamed of the descending tear
Whether you are 36 or 3
It doth cleanseth your heart clear
And from bondage be free

Permit yourself to sense anger so real
Just ler yourself not lose control
With your heart begin to heal
Then perhaps forgiveness your spirit hold

From fear we must not hide our face
Cofront it with confidence strong
Some of the uneasiness may erase
Experiencing a new place to belong

Love is a most glorious thing
It can create a sense of peace
Soaring as a bird on eagles wings
ACCEPTANCE WITHIN IS HAPPINESS RELEASED


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Increase Your Three Different Types of Energy

By: Brian Tracy

Most successful people can be characterized as having very high levels of energy. Since energy is the fuel with which everything is achieved, there seems to be a direct relationship between energy levels and levels of accomplishment. It is hard to imagine a tired, burned-out person achieving much in life. On the other hand, energetic, positive, forward-moving individuals seem to get and enjoy far more of the things life has to offer than does the average person.

Physical Energy Is Basic
We have been led to believe that there is basically one kind of energy. We supposedly replenish this energy by sleeping at night, and during the day, we use it up again. It is as though we are machines powered by batteries, and each night we recharge our batteries for seven or eight hours. However, there are some problems with this view of energy. The biggest problem is that it does not deal with the fact that there are actually three different kinds of energy, each of which is necessary for maximum performance.

The three main forms are physical energy, emotional energy, and mental energy. Each of these energies is different, but they are interrelated, and they depend on each other.

The Sweat of Your Brow
Physical energy is raw energy, coarse energy, bulk energy, what we call "meat-and-potatoes" energy. Your physical energy is what you use to do physical labor. It is the primary energy applied by men and women who earn their livings by the sweat of their brow.

The Source of Enthusiasm
The second form of energy is emotional energy. This is the energy of enthusiasm and excitement. This is the energy that lends sparkle to the life of an individual. This is the energy that is necessary for feeling love, happiness, and joy. Largely, it is your emotional energy that makes life enjoyable for you. In fact, almost everything you say and do is determined in some way by an emotion, either positive or negative.

The Requirement for Creativity
Mental energy is the energy of creativity, of problem solving and decision making. You use mental energy to make sales, write reports and proposals, plan your day and your week, and learn new subjects. Your level of mental energy is a major determinant of the quality of your life.

Conserve Your Best Energies
The reason why most people fail to realize their potential in life and work is because they burn up their energy at the emotional level, or the physical level; therefore, they have very little energy left over for mental activities. Most people burn up their emotional energy through the expression of negative emotions. Negative emotions are like a fire that burns up their energy so quickly that they have very little left with which to think positively and constructively. In fact, one five-minute uncontrolled outburst of anger can burn up as much energy as an average person would use in eight hours of work.

Your job is to think continually about how you can stay calm and positive, and work smoothly and efficient, so you can have more mental energy to do the things that are most important to you in life.

Action Exercises
Here are three things you can do immediately to put these ideas into action:

First, take time to identify the different ways that you either use up or deplete your levels of physical, emotional and mental energy. How could you improve in each area?

Second, be sure to get plenty of healthful, nutritious food so you can keep your physical energy at high levels. This is the key to all other energies.

Third, look for ways to conserve your emotional energies by being more relaxed and optimistic in the face of daily problems and disappointments.

The more energy you have, the happier and more productive you will be.


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Don't Quit

"Your circumstances may be uncongenial, but they shall not remain so if you only perceive an ideal and strive to reach it. You cannot travel within and stand still without." -- As A Man Thinketh

For many years I have carried around a poem called Don't Quit. One of the lines says, "stick to the fight when you're hardest hit - It's when things seem worst that you mustn't quit."

In our darkest hour it's hard to see the end of our circumstance. All we can think of is our conditions worsening. But it's usually at this time that our greatest growth can occur if we'll see the moment as a growth opportunity. If we'll see it as a time to learn how to control our thoughts toward an ideal that we cherish.

One thing I share with people who seek my advice when they think their life has come apart, is to help them understand the power that even the tiniest of actions can have when taken in a negative situation.

Remember in Science class when we learned that "a body at rest tends to remain at rest or a body in motion tends to remain in motion." This is especially true when overcoming circumstances because "paralysis" usually keeps us in the condition longer than we'd like.

But even more important, is that once we've started in motion, even though it may not seem like much, know this - it's now only a matter of time before you're out, totally out, of the situation that has got you down today.

My long-time favorite poem by an anonymous author is worth remembering today:

When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill.
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh.
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns.
And many a fellow turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man.
Often the struggler has given up,
When he might have captured the victor's cup.
And he learned too late when the night came down,
How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt.
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems afar.
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit,
It's when things seem worst that you mustn't quit.

And that's worth thinking about.

Vic Johnson


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Problems Can be Opportunities in Disguise

One of the most desirable attitudes of a leader is an ability to view problems as opportunities and setbacks as temporary inconveniences. This positive attitude also welcomes change as friendly and is not upset by surprises, even negative ones. How we approach challenges and problems is a crucial aspect of our decision making process, whether in business or in our personal lives. In companies and environments in which criticism, pessimism, cynicism, and motivation by fear prevail, an attitude develops that leads to avoiding failure at all costs. The trouble with failure avoidance is that it's simultaneously avoidance of success, which depends on big risks.
Innovation and creativity are impossible when people are in fear of being penalized for failure.

Early experience often teaches that failure is to be avoided at all costs. This begins in childhood, when we encounter the first "No!!" It grows like a weed when we are criticized by our parents, other family members, our teachers, and our peers. It leads to associating ourselves with our mistakes, and to a self-image of clumsiness and awkwardness. Not wanting to be criticized or rejected, many adults also seek security rather than risk looking foolish or appearing awkward. They quietly ride with the system, not rocking the boat.

All lasting success in life is laced with problems and misfortunes which require creativity and innovation. Winners turn stumbling blocks into stepping stones.

In the 1920s, when Ernest Hemingway was working hard to perfect his craft, he lost a suitcase containing all his manuscripts. The devastated Hemingway couldn't conceive of re-doing his work. He could think only of the months he'd devoted to his arduous writing - and for nothing, he was now convinced.

But when he lamented his loss to poet Ezra Pound, Pound called it a stroke of luck. Pound assured Hemingway that when he rewrote the stories, he would forget the weak parts and only the best material would reappear. Instead of framing the event in disappointment, Pound cast it in the light of opportunity. Hemingway did rewrite the stories, and the rest, as they say, is history.

This week, concentrate on framing your challenges as "opportunities to grow" rather than "disappointments and problems."

-- Denis Waitley


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Choosing to act

You can worry, and your constant focus on the negative possibilities will help to make them real. Or you can take action, and your worries will quickly fade away as you get busy creating a positive reality.

You can complain about life's unfairness, and your negative attitude will prevent you from seeing the best opportunities. Or you can take action, and the valuable opportunities open to you will grow more numerous and more accessible with each moment.

You can wait for things to be perfect before moving forward, and you'll end up letting life pass you by. Or you can go ahead and take action, transforming what you already have, as imperfect as it may be, into even greater abundance.

You can take comfort in never making a mistake by never venturing out, but then you'll never make any progress either. Or you can take action, and even though there will be some mistakes along the way, they'll be outweighed by the many worthwhile achievements.

You can remain bitter and angry over what has already happened, and by so doing you'll extend your misfortune even longer. Or you can take action, and move yourself to a more positive, more fulfilling place.

You can choose to do nothing, but you're not going to like the results. Or you can choose to take action, and to create a life that's filled with purpose, meaning and real fulfillment.

-- Ralph Marston


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Keep A Positive Attitude and Contagious Enthusiasm

Why and how a positive attitude can directly affect your success? Your mood effects your beliefs, which in turn reflects onto your personal and business life and then onto your customers. If you are in a negative mood, it will sweep through your business like a wild fire.

Staying positive and enthusiastic is essential to the shameless self-promoter. A positive attitude along with contagious enthusiasm will support your groundwork to effectively self promote.

Even if you think of yourself as a marketing zero, you can make a good start towards becoming a marketing hero if you have a positive state of mind and contagious enthusiasm.

Although you know that enthusiasm is contagious, it is also contagious to reflect on negative energy. In fact, it is even easier for us to pick up negative vibes and reflect them internally in our daily lives.

Watch out for negative energy and stay away from negative forces in your life. Being positive will promote your self-esteem, self-belief and help you avoid depression. Try this simple exercise for a "positive pick me up".

Mind Power Exercise For Positive Energy...

Close your eyes, relax and imagine that you are now a total success. Fill your being with the conviction that you are a success in this present moment.

Imagine that all you have done this far in life has created nothing but success. Go on to recall and then vividly relive some of the most rewarding and successful times in your life. Notice how one thought leads to another.

Go beyond just memories of success and bring to mind anything that makes you feel good. Be creative. Do this for at least five minutes and note how your energy, emotions, and expectations for yourself have changed their nature. Do you feel better? Do you feel more confident, or as if the future looks more promising?

You are what you think! When you think and feel stronger, you are stronger. The cells and molecules in your body are instantly filled with more energy.

By believing in your strength you are freeing up, memories, energies and potentials within that act immediately to change your capabilities in the present.

Smile and make it a great day!

Debbie Allen


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Angry Lions, Angry Goats and Hungry Vultures

Our world is full of angry people, angry for things that they do not know. We use anger to protect us when we have done something wrong. We use it to hide our failures and problems. We think the louder we shout at others the more right we become. But in reality when we are angry we exhibit our low self-esteem.

Anger breaks relationships, it turns friends into enemies and it destroys our physical and mental health. It affects our personal, family, social and work life. It leads to violence, injury, misery and regrets.

Psychologists say it's not wrong to get angry. It is just one of many human emotions and it is better to express our feelings than to control them. Anger has to be managed not controlled. If not managed, it can ruin our career, our relationships and our lives.

Here are some ways to manage our anger.

1. Boost your self-esteem
Developing self-esteem is the best way to manage our anger. If managed well anger can be used to change the world, because it will help us to stand courageously for what is right, just and human.

The root of all our anger is the lack of self-esteem. We do not appreciate ourselves and do not view ourselves positively. We see only negative everywhere and in everyone. Self-esteem is the way we look at ourselves. If we view positively ourselves we will see positive all around us.

Low self-esteem is the cause of unhappiness, reduced production, depression, employee turnovers, unjust criticisms, etc. Such people are easily prone to rage and anger because they are basically unhappy people and nothing will make them happy unless they choose to be happy. They blame themselves and others for all the wrong in the world but never move their fingers to correct any of these problems. Dissatisfaction and regrets are the result of low self-esteem. To live a happy, productive life we need to accept, respect and love ourselves.

People with high self-esteem and self-respect are able to manage their anger and become great personalities. They will have fewer regrets in life and will have a memorable life with scores of friends and well-wishers around them.

2. Physician heal thyself
We go around correcting everybody else except ourselves. But we need the cure first. If we find that we often lash out at people we need a cure. The first step to cure anger is to realize that we are the cause of our anger. We need to go within ourselves and discover the real cause, which is in us.

We need to journey within ourselves and discover our feelings of anger, vengeance, and rage and find out what makes us angry. It may be our past experiences, our prejudices or our selfish interests. We must learn to handle our emotions and ourselves. We get angry with people because we have not settled our own lives. We carry with us our anger and we find fault with everybody hurting people around us and alienating ourselves in the process. No one can make us angry except ourselves just as no one can make us happy except ourselves.

When we are healed we will begin to respect, accept and love others and ourselves. It will help us to share with our opponent in a healthy and win-win manner all our disagreements and differences.

3. Become the change
We are angry because people and situations do not behave and change as we wish. Change doesn't come because we are angry and we force people to change. Change has to come in our lives first.

In order to change ourselves, we need to believe that change is possible. We are not in control of the nature, the universe, the events, and people but we are in control of ourselves. We can initiate change in ourselves and when we do this we change the world. When you change and give people time to change your anger will disappear.

4. Never react
When you are angry, close your eyes and breath in and out slowly and rhythmically for a few minutes to relax and you will surprise yourself to see that your anger is gone and that you are able to handle the situation much better without harming yourself and your opponent in any way. Never react to situations suddenly. Take time and discover the root of the problem and become proactive in handling such situations.

The greatest remedy for anger is delay. Thomas Jefferson, a great American Statesman worked out a way to handle his anger. He included it in his "Rules of Living" which describe how people should live. He says: "When angry count ten before you speak; if very angry, a hundred."

5. Shut up and listen
When you really listen to your opponent and to yourself you will get the root cause of your anger. We must also learn to express ourselves calmly even when things are terribly wrong. Listen to the other person and realize that he too has a reason for behaving that way.

6. Communicate politely
Lack of communication skills aggravates anger. We get angry because we don't communicate well and we don't communicate because we have very low self-esteem and are afraid to tell others what we feel and who we are. Pent up feelings and suppressed emotions will erupt like uncontrollable volcanoes. Talking freely to people especially those whom we trust is a good way to manage our anger.

7. Forgive and forget
Things can go wrong for any one, but it doesn't mean that we too go wrong by getting angry. Forgiveness is one of the best ways to cure your anger. The world today needs people who are ready to forgive and forget. Anger makes us small while forgiveness makes us grow beyond what we actually are. It gives us back our friends, our laughter and our lives. Anger will disappear and life will be fun only when the thoughts of resentments are forgiven and forgotten.

8. Believe
Believe others and you will never be angry. Have confidence in others and in yourself if you wish to walk the path of success. We often become slaves of our anger instead of conquering them. For every minute we are angry we lose sixty seconds of happiness. Our minds can't think clearly when we are angry. Look at people to discover their goodness and not their faults; believe them and we will conquer our anger.

9. Become humble
Anger is afraid of humility. We must become humble enough to accept our mistakes, our limitations and be ready to tolerate the drawbacks and limitations of others. Become humble, seek help and say sorry if you don't want to have regrets in life. Anger is associated with frustration. Frustration is the result of unrealistic expectations from yourself and others. This frustration breeds rage and turns into violence. Accept your limitations; accept that you can't do everything; accept that others too can't do everything.

10. Have some fun
Fun-loving people are seldom angry. They find fun and joy in any situation. Listening to music, watching a comedy, exercising, meditating, developing our talents, going for a night out etc can help us to manage our anger.

Ralph Woener tells a fable about a young lion and a mountain goat. Quite thirsty, the animals arrived at a waterhole at the same time. They immediately began to argue about who would drink first. They were about to kill each other in their fight to drink first. As each stubbornly confronted the other, their anger turned to rage.

Just then something distracted them and they both looked up. Circling overhead was a flock of vultures waiting for the loser to fall.

That was all they needed to end their quarrel.

Anger is like suicide. It kills the one who is angry and one's relationships. There is no enemy more vicious than this.

Our world is full of angry lions and angry goats but beware of the hungry vultures flying above!

Joshy Thomas
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5 Dynamite Ways to Live Your Dream NOW!

"I'm a big fan of dreams. Unfortunately, dreams are our first casualty in life--people seem to give them up, quicker than anything, for a 'reality'." - Kevin Costner

Did you ever say to yourself, "Someday, I'm going to..." and yet "someday" never seems to arrive?

Dreams really are the first casualty in life because we give them up based on some past "reality". What do you really want? Do you want to learn how to play a musical instrument, take an acting class, make more money, improve a skill or finish a book you've been putting off?

We all have dreams, even if they seem buried within us and we don't notice the flame any more. Too often we allow our failures and near failures from the past to become our current reality and it seems our dreams are out of reach. They are not.

We know we've allowed the past to dictate our present when we think or say things like, "I don't know if this will work" or "I can't really do this, I've tried before and it didn't work". These are the so-called past "realities" we've allowed to interfere with our present and our future.

If Jim Carrey believed his past was the measuring stick, he would have never been paid $15 million to act in a film. If Sylvester Stallone believed in his past "reality", Rocky would have never been made.

Look at anyone you believe is successful and you will find that their dreams were not based on some past "reality" or they would have been dropped long ago.

Here are 5 great strategies to turn your dreams into a reality!

1. Be Clear - Any dream requires that we are crystal clear in our vision. What do you really want? Clear visions lead to clear choices and the majority of my clients are not clear about what they want. They think they are but soon discover they are not.

"Make more money" or "Being happier" are not clear desires. Be clear on the amount of money you want, the type of business you want, how you will serve your clients, the specific actions that make you happy and so on.

2. See it as an established Fact - My clients find this step to be somewhat challenging. Their logical minds step in and think, "How can I see it as real if it hasn't happened yet?" Dreams are the ultimate use of human imagination at its best.

See your dream as an established fact even though it has not materialized yet. The body does not know the difference between imagination and reality and if you imagine your dream as already accomplished, your body will experience it that way and it will propel you to think, say and do things in accordance with it.

Jim Carrey wrote himself a 10 million dollar check for "acting services rendered" months before he was actually offered that amount. Jack Nicklaus saw every shot before he hit it and Donald Trump sees a casino on a plot of land before it actually exists.

3. Feel the Passion - This is a crucial element in the process. Feelings are stronger than the intellect and when you add "feeling power" to your images you add a tremendous force toward the accomplishment of your dream.

Can you feel how good it feels to accomplish your dream? Imagine yourself earning the money you desire, running a successful business, seeing how your product or service helps customers, traveling, being healthy and happy, building relationships, etc. Generate the warm, powerful feelings that your dream triggers within you and feel it.

4. Bounce Forward - "Bad times have a scientific value. These are occasions a good learner would not miss." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

It is inevitable that the path toward your dream will be filled with ups and downs. You will encounter disappointments and nay-sayers along the way.

However, these are all opportunities to clarify and enhance your dream. As Emerson writes, "These are occasions a good learner would not miss". Use these moments as lessons and indicators that will help you bolster your dream even more.

5. Act Every Day - "My results today aren't as important as the seeds I cultivate for tomorrow" - Anon.

Dreams require daily cultivation. Nurture your dream by paying attention to it and nourishing it every day. This means going through steps 1 - 4 each day and follow-up with action.


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How to Fit in Anywhere

“Sometimes I’m not sure how I fit into this whole puzzle called life.” Have you ever thought that to yourself? Have you ever had one of those moments where you look at everything going on and you question how you’re connected to it all?

If so, you are not alone. And if it’s any consolation, the number of people finding themselves in that same situation is growing every day. Do a web search at Google.com for “Stay at home Dads” and you’ll get 214,000 web sites to choose from on the topic. A search on “Home schooling” will get you almost 1.5 million sites. “Alternative careers,” brings up over 2.1 million choices to click on.

There is no doubt that the world is changing. People are exploring new ways to do things, new perspectives to look at life from, and new ways to make a living.

As the changes evolve, individuals are having a harder time figuring out exactly how they fit in. The puzzle of life with clearly defined pieces is no longer so clearly defined. Initially, this can be challenging. After all, it is easier to figure out which piece of the puzzle you are, and therefore how you fit in, if there are identifiable pieces.

But with the morphing of both those clearly defined roles and the stereotypes that developed because of them, comes a new opportunity. It is the opportunity to fit in anywhere.

So how does one seize this tremendous chance? How is it possible to go from confusion to interfusion, and from separated to linked? The answer is to think bigger, stay connected, and create your own puzzle.

Think Bigger

We often limit our thinking by putting classifications on ourselves and those around us. I am a student, she is Canadian, he is wealthy, they are Hispanic, we are elderly. By using these types of classifications, it is simple to create an environment where we don’t fit in. The more we categorize people, the less likely we are to have something in common with them, and therefore, the more we can feel out of place.

However, when we think bigger, and broaden our view of the world, it becomes easier to see how we fit into it all. Thinking to ourselves, “I am a human,” or “We are alive,” greatly expands the spectrum of possible connection points. Suddenly, we fit in anywhere. Every place we go we have a link to all that is around us.

Get Connected

The world has shrunk and expanded all at the same time with the creation of technologies like wireless communication, satellite television, and most recently the Internet. People that would never have interacted with each other are now connecting every single day. Those interactions shrink the distance and differences between all of us.

At the same time, this access to people, information, and cultures expands the world in an instant. We have such easy access to information that it is impossible not to realize there is a massive world of people around us.

In some instances our interactions result in gaining static insights into how other people live, work, and play. The expanded offerings available through cable and satellite television bring that opportunity. We can watch and learn about what life is like around the globe. We see that although people are different in many ways, they are even more alike.

In other cases, the link is less informational and more interactive. We can get on the internet and through e-mail and chat rooms, be instantly linked to people that are literally halfway around the world. We can find friends in countries around the planet who have similar interests, challenges, and beliefs. With the click of a mouse, we can get connected.

Through the technologies at our disposal, we have access to a wealth of information and a world of people. If you use those technologies to be actively involved in getting connected, you will instantly see all the ways in which you fit in.

Create Your Own Puzzle

Thinking bigger helps you associate yourself with a wider spectrum of people. Getting connected helps you interact with those people. Both of these principles will help you fit in anywhere.

Creating your own puzzle takes the concept of fitting in to a whole new level. Instead of summarizing who you are and trying to find ways to integrate with the world around you, try letting the world integrate with you.

Why should you fit into someone else’s puzzle? Why not define the existence you want and therefore create your own puzzle. After all, it’s easy to figure out how you fit into the puzzle, if you create the puzzle. Does that sound difficult? It doesn’t have to be. If you open up your world by thinking bigger, and then use the concept of getting connected, you will have access to a world of people who also are creating their own puzzles.

No matter what type of existence you want to have, there are probably hundreds if not thousands of other people who want something similar. They may be scattered around the world and have backgrounds completely unlike yours, but when you think bigger and get connected, that no longer matters. In all likelihood, some of them have already figured out how to have the type of existence that you seek, and are probably willing to share that information.

Pick and choose the parts of their puzzle that work for you and blend them with your own ideas. Pretty soon, you will have created something that is totally unique, and all yours. Then you won’t have to worry about fitting into someone else’s puzzle because you’ll have your own.

As the world continues to change, traditional roles will become less and less traditional. In that environment, finding where we fit in will get more difficult. Think bigger, get connected, and create your own puzzle and you’ll find that you won’t have trouble fitting in, because you’ll fit in anywhere.


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How to Put an End to Depression

Depression can have many, many faces. If you are not aware of your feelings and emotions on a daily basis then it can creep up on you and cause misery in your life when you least expect it.

We get sad when we fail in our exams, when we’re rejected by the person we love, or when someone very close to us passes away. Depression, however, could be more fatal than just plain sadness. It could cause life-long consequences that could ruin your self-esteem, your health, and your well-being.

Here are some excellent tips for conquering depression and to help you get the most enjoyment out of your daily activities.

1. Be Certain of Your Future Goals
If you have no goals then the future will seem uncertain. This will create anxiety and just add to the problem. Having goals gives you something to look forward to in life. They drive us on and create a desire for life. Keep your focus on your goals.

2. Keep a Journal.
Every day, write down your deepest feelings. Say what you want to say. Get it out of your head and onto paper. Don’t hold back. This is a very therapeutic way to pull yourself back up. Keep writing down whatever comes into your mind and very soon you will feel your mood start to improve. Done properly, this method can create dramatic changes in emotion.

3. Get Enough Light and Sunshine.
Lack of exposure to sunlight is responsible for the secretion of the hormone melatonin, which could trigger a dispirited mood and a lethargic condition.

Melatonin is only produced in the dark. It lowers the body temperature and makes you feel sluggish. If you are always cooped up in your room (with the curtains closed), it would be difficult to restrain yourself from staying in bed.

This is the reason why many people are suffering from depression much more often in winter than in the other seasons. It’s because the nights are longer.

If you can’t go outdoors to get some sunshine, you can always lighten up your room with brighter lights. Have lunch outside the office. Take frequent walks instead of driving your car over short distances.

4. Keep Busy. Get Inspired About Something.
It’s a fact that people are happiest when they are producing something. Do some activity that you have always wanted to do. Live a life full of inspired activities.

What is it that you really love to do? What are you passionate about?. Taking a nice walk in the park, playing sports, reading books, or listening to some soothing music.

5. Make Some Time For Yourself.
I mean it. Listen to soothing music. Soak in a nice warm bath. Ask one of your close friends to massage you. Take a break from your stressful workload and spend the day just goofing around. In other words, have fun.

6. Eat Healthy and Exercise Regularly.
Avoid foods with lots of sugar, caffeine, or alcohol. Sugar and caffeine may give you a brief moment of energy; but they would later bring about anxiety , tension, and internal problems. Alcohol is a depressant. Many people drink alcohol to “forget their problems.” It never works. The ONLY way to handle problems is to confront them. Describe your problems in your journal fully. If you really face them the right solution might appear.Exercising regularly is a vital depression buster.

7. Increase Your Social Life.
Your friends are there to give you moral support. Spending time and engaging in worthwhile activities with your friends could give you a very satisfying feeling. Nothing feels better than having group support.

Get intimate. Establish close ties with your family and friends. The love you get from others is very satisfying. In times of depression having stable influences around you is comforting.

Really take control of your own life. Follow these tips. Come up with your own solutions. You really CAN do it!


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To Love or Not to Love?

Have you ever fallen in love with two different persons at the same time? Falling in love with two different persons whom both have the same feeling for you too? Well, there is actually nothing wrong with that. In fact I would say that it is something very normal, sometimes even falling for more than two persons for some.

We are afterall human beings, creatures of great emotions. It is just natural for one to develop a liking for the opposite sex, especially when the both are getting along very well. Sometimes, it is just so hard for us to control our feeling and nevertheless, it has always been human nature to be greedy. It is always good to be able to have the best of both worlds isn’t it? But well, things are usually just not possible. At the end of the day, you just have to make your choice, to decide for yourself, your one and only love whom that person to be.

To love or not to love, it is your choice. Think of it this way. In our path of life, we are always faced with choices. Choices that we have to make decisions over; decisions that will affect our life. At circumstances, even having to make immediate decision on the spot, decisions concerning of life and death. Sometimes we made the right decision and sometimes the wrong. But no matter what our decisions might have brought so far; we accepted them, didn’t we?

That is life. There is not way the world is going to stop moving just for you. To turn left or to turn right, to move forward or to turn back, you just have to make up your mind. I should believe that you will not choose to be stuck at the cross junction for your whole life?

Well, a game of chances and uncertainties life has nevertheless always been. If you never play you can never win. You have just got to make your choice, to decide where to place your bet. You can of course choose to give up, not to risk your bet. You always have your choice. Life is just so full of choices, remember? But well, will you later regret giving up that chance when you have it?

The same goes for love. Between the both, you just got to decide whom you really like more. Well, having choices is always better than not having any at all, right?
I should also believe that you are not going to give up that chance of even placing your bet? I know it is going to be hard but do just give yourself sometime. Follow where your heart goes. Between the both, there is definitely one whom you will actually like more.

Ok, just picture this scenario; there are this two musical concert, both a once in a lifetime concert. Missing it, you will never get the chance to see it again. You have been dying to catch the shows all these while. However for such a coincidence, they are been held at the same timing on the same day. Again, I suppose you will not just give up the chance of catching both shows altogether? Between the two, you will definitely choose one right?

Finally, to get to fully enjoy the show, which you had decided upon, you just got to forget about that disappointment from missing the other show. But well, more often than not, once you found yourself in the musical concert, chances are you will be totally captured by that spectacular ambience, enjoying yourself so much, totally forgotten about any disappointment that you earlier had. Now where we are discussing about love, it is just the same. Many at times, we just can’t bear to give up on what we already have, struggling so hard within ourselves. In the end, we might jollywell end up with nothing at all. In life, we gain some we lose some. It’s no use holding on so hard to something, which you know will not come out with anything. When you have to give up, you have to. When you have to choose, you just have to.

Just like choosing between the two musical concerts, follow where your heart goes. Once you made up your mind, everything will just seem so much clearer. Slowly, your path of love will reveal its way for you. Will it lead to happiness for you? Well again, we wouldn’t know. But if we never try we will never know. At least, I should believe that you will be much happier than to be still stuck at the cross junction, lost for direction?

Remember, the world is not going to stop turning just for you. So is with love. The two persons will not just keep waiting for you. Wishy-washy? You might just end up with nothing at all.


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Become the change that you wish to see

We spend so much of our time and energy lamenting over the negative state of the world. We want to change our world, our systems, rules, cultures and people but not ourselves. But the only way to change the world and make a difference in the world is by changing ourselves.

Instead of lamenting over the negative state of the world, think rather what we can do to make it a positive one. Mahatma Gandhi encourages us to become the change that we wish to see in the world.

Change is tough and no one likes to change though as Heraclitus said it is the only constant thing in the world. The world is like a river flowing, we can never step into the same water twice. Everything is in constant flux and if we don't change we will be ineffective and irrelevant. Someone told me jokingly that the only one who longs for a change is a wet baby. No one likes change and yet it is change that has changed the world and brought us so much progress.

Change means different things to different people. To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse; to the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better; to the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better. We have become so much settled in our contexts, ideas, attitudes and mindset that we find it impossible to change and grow. Not only that we are unwilling and afraid to change, we also prevent others from changing and adapting themselves to this fast changing world.

Change requires movement and every movement brings about some kind of friction and tension. But this friction can smoothen our rough edges and make us more effective in our careers and commitments.

Here are some ways to change ourselves and thus change the world.

1. Change your attitudes
The greatest discovery of our times is that we are able to change our attitudes. Don't attribute our low self-esteem and negative attitudes to our backgrounds rather take some steps to change our attitudes, beliefs and mindsets. When we do this we will change the world. The world today is for people with positive attitudes. Such people find happiness in everyone and everywhere. Be ready to adapt and adjust yourself to the situations. Change your attitudes and you change the world.

2. Know yourself
Know yourself to make a difference in the world and in your life. Find out who you really are and discover your innumerable potentialities and capabilities. This will help you to courageously take responsibility to change the world. Only when you know yourself you will be able to love yourself. Self-love is the foundation for love of others. If you don't love and respect yourself you will never be able to love and respect others. Believe that we have the power to change ourselves and change the world. The first step towards change is self-awareness and the next is self-acceptance. When we realize who we are we will feel the need for change and then we will welcome change.

3. Become responsible and respectable
This is another way to make a difference in the world. All of us see the poor situation of the world, all of us lament about it, but few of us take the responsibility to correct the world. We must take responsibility and become responsive to the changes in the world. When we are responsible we become respectable and admirable. You may not change the circumstances, the seasons, the wind, or the people but you can change yourself. Do this first. We must take responsibility for our lives and deeds and then the world will change.

4. Build lasting relationships

Most problems in our world are due to the absence of genuine relationships. Relationships like commodities have become so short-lived and today we use and throw away people like things. We need to build up our relationship skills to change others and ourselves. This change will bring harmony and joy to us. Money can't buy this joy. Positions can't give us this. The source of this happiness is our cordial relationships with our fellow beings. Everyone is unique and everyone can contribute something to this world. Look at persons as treasures of great possibilities and go beyond linguistic, religious, cultural and political barriers and relate and love everyone just as we love ourselves.

5. Build yourself and build the world
Change is always associated with action. It denotes a transition from one state to another. We need to build ourselves and build the world to bring the difference that we want to see. It is not the result of violent revolutions and shrewd political triumphs but a slow action that breeds in our hearts, which gradually spreads to transform the world positively and productively. Economically, physically and politically the results may not be shown suddenly, but slowly a change will take place within us which will still slowly spread to the world. The world will change only when we change. When we change we grow young.

An old Jewish story tells the reaction of a learned, wise rabbi to this excited announcement by a member of his congregation: "The Messiah has come! He is in our city now!"

"Really?" mused the rabbi.

Going to the window the rabbi looked out on the city and observed: "I see no difference."

After all our efforts we may not see any difference in the outer world but be glad that we have made a difference in our inner world.

Become the change that you wish to see in the world.

Joshy Thomas
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Focus On What You Have NOT What You DON'T Have

Many people are putting themselves down by constantly telling themselves they don't have this and that, they are not good enough and in a long term it will definitely cause some self-esteem issue.

No one is perfect, we're always blessed with something and we gotta focus on the blessing not the missing! ;-)

There's an old Chinese saying:
You should value/respect yourself 1st otherwise no one will value/respect you.

Believe in your inherent self-worth, be strong, don't think about negative things to put yourself down for in such a cruel real world, there are some people are so ready to put you down already!

Jamie


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The magic of self-confidence

There is something common in all achievers and that is self-confidence. It gives them courage to take greater risks and achieve more than they ever thought possible. Self-confidence extends their reach and makes them do miracles.

Self-confidence is our attitude which gives us a positive and realistic views about ourselves. It helps us to trust our abilities and believe that we can achieve what we dream.

Self-confident people have realistic expectations of themselves and others. Even if some of these expectations are not met they remain positive, accept themselves and look optimistically to conquer greater heights.

They feel good about themselves even when others don't appreciate and acknowledge their efforts. They don't long for the approval of others and are willing to risk and do what others are scared of doing because they believe in their ability to win. Jack Welch says, "Self-confidence gives you courage and extends your reach. It lets you take greater risks and achieve far more than you ever thought possible."

Self-confidence is contagious. Self-confident people instill confidence in others and gain the confidence of others. It is the secret of effective and successful living.

Our self-confidence is expressed in our behaviour, body language, the way we dress, talk, look, walk, what we say and think, the way we act and relate etc. A self-confident person fears nothing, has attained the truth and lives free of error.

The signs of low self-confidence are feeling of guilt, skepticism, self-shame, pride, fear, pretension, laziness, unforgiving attitudes, depression, lack of trust in oneself and others, pessimism, inferiority complex, procrastination, self-doubt, passivity, submissiveness, isolation and jealousy etc.

Be glad there are ways by which we can build up our self-confidence.

1. Have faith in yourself
Our self-confidence increases when we believe in our abilities to perform and manage things. All of us have innumerable talents and potentials, only we are often not aware of many of them. To believe a in our capabilities we first of all must identify what we have. For his we have to do a SWOT analysis and realistically look at ourselves. We will discover that we are people of great possibilities and potentials. This faith in our abilities will boost our self-confidence. We must dwell more on our strengths and use them to negate and correct our weaknesses.

2. Look at your achievements
We can successfully do so many things. We too are great achievers. But we often brood over our failures and make our lives miserable. Think often of your successes and this will help you to increase your self-confidence. Our fear of failures prevents us from taking up anything new and challenging. Remember that we have so many qualities and abilities and that we too can be successful if we perform with all our energy, mind and heart.

3. Feel good about yourself
No one can make us feel inferior without our permission. To boost our self-confidence first of all we must feel good about ourselves. The secret of all successful and happy living is to love oneself. When I am unhappy with myself I see unhappiness everywhere and I make all those around me unhappy. I must accept myself and feel good about the way I am, the way I look, my colour, my size, my shape and believe that the world can't be same if I am not there. Enjoy yourself once in a while by joining your friends for a night out, enjoying a good meal, going for a movie, playing some games etc. Laugh and forget yourself and enjoy some moments and run away from your work and stress. Such activities can boost your self-confidence.

4. Fix challenging goals
Goals can do miracles in our lives. Greater the goals greater is our self-confidence. We should have both small goals and big goals. The achievement of small goals will give us enough enthusiasm and self-confidence to run towards bigger and more challenging goals. We must think positively about our abilities to achieve our goals and reward ourselves when we achieve them.

5. Bring in commitment and passion
Our self-confidence depends on the degree of our commitment to a cause. If we are mediocre and half-hearted the result will also be same. We must commit ourselves to success and become passionate about what we do. Our commitment is expressed in our eagerness and desire to learn and develop new skills, knowledge and talents. When we are more prepared with commitment, knowledge and skills to do a thing we become more confident.

The elephant and the maina were great friends. But the elephant always felt sad that he was not able to fly like his friend maina. So one day he asked maina to teach him how to fly. The maina agreed and led him to a cliff.

Pulling out a feather she said: "hold this feather tight in your mouth and flap your ears and jump down this cliff and you will fly."

The elephant belived her words, held the feather in his mouth and flapped his ears and behold he began to fly.

He flew over the villages, the rivers and cities and returned to his friend very happy and told her " Your feather is very powerful. Can I have this feather because I want use it whenever I want to fly."

The maina said, "its not my feather. It's a hair from your tail. You only need to believe in your ability to fly. Believe in yourself and you will do miracles."

Believe in yourself, have confidence in yourself and you will indeed do miracles.

Joshy Thomas
HR Trainer and Leadership Formator


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Courageous leaders for courageous followers

Courageous leaders for courageous followers

One of the essential qualities of a leader is that he is courageous. It doesn't mean that he is not afraid, but that he is ready to take risks, go out of his familiar and safe surroundings and walk an extra mile along the road less traveled.

Men of courage have made a difference in this world. Any significant progress in society, in family, in politics, in religious life or in business is the result of the courageous decision of a courageous person.

We don't become courageous by occupying a leadership position; rather we are courageous to occupy that position.

1. Courageous people are those who have won the battle over their inner lives. We all have a lot of fears, mainly our inner fears, tensions and anxieties. We are afraid of our perceptions and thoughts, our inhibitions and imaginations. We are afraid to make a decision and make a commitment. We need to win this war within ourselves if we want to become a courageous leader.

When we have won our inner battles we will begin to courageously do things that we were once afraid of doing. To win this most important battle first of all we must discover who we are, identify the weapons we have, prepare ourselves with more talents and use them effectively. Self-mastery is the path to all other victories.

2. Courageous leaders don't run away from problems. Problems are there everywhere for everyone. A courageous leader stands up to these problems and faces them. He faces the mountain and climbs it steadily with strong steps and conquers it courageously. Courage is not the absence of fear but the willingness to push on in the face of it. It is our ability to confront the fear, the pain, the uncertainty and the danger.

3. Courageous leaders make their followers also courageous. Courage is contagious. People will follow not a coward but a courageous hero who will bravely lead them to higher goals and greater delights.

4. Courageous leaders inspire commitment in others. They make things right and commit themselves fiercely to a cause that they believe in. They are ready to stand for what is right, what is new and inspire others to do the same.

5. Courageous leaders are free and they find opportunities to grow everywhere. Fear enslaves us and prevents us from growing up. We often look for safe places, and are afraid to take risks and challenges but growth comes only when we courageously walk the road less traveled.

6. Courageous leaders are honourable. People admire them for their robust will power and courageous deeds.

7. Courage empowers the leader to do greater wonders. Remember the story of little David who courageously defeated the mighty Goliath. Courage is the key to wonderful living, great performance and high satisfaction.

8. Courage makes us more courageous. When we face the music, go out and do something risky we become more courageous. We are afraid of people, situations, places events and experiences. The only way to overcome this fear is by meeting the monster face to face. Do what you are afraid of doing and you will never be afraid of doing it again.

9. Courage doesn't consist in doing great things that normally people are afraid of doing. But it takes more courage to refrain from gossip, to stand up for what is right, to defend justice, to speak for the voiceless, to live honestly, to accept failures, to give up credits for the sake of others, to refuse to do wrong and to live according to our convictions.

We are courageous when we appreciate the good works and ideas of others, when we speak well of others, when we don't criticise the management and colleagues, when we are punctual and dedicated in our work, when we don't blame others for our failures and defeats, when we sincerely do our duties and preserve the properties of our company and when we genuinely care and share.

Courage is most clearly expressed in forgiveness.

In the first half of 1981 there were two assassination attempts one after the other on Pope John Paul II and President Ronald Reagan. Both could have died but were fortunately saved. Reagan showed much courage and even cracked a joke on his way to the operation theater. The Pope immediately forgave his assassin, Mehmet Ali Agca. In an editorial, Rajmohan Gandhi commented: "Reagan showed how human he was, the Pope showed how divine he was."

Leaders who lack courage aren't leaders.

When we are courageous all our difficulties vanish and all obstacles melt away. We are born to be leaders. Become a courageous leader then.

Joshy Thomas
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Praise them when they are alive

5 Ways to Praise

Mark Twain said: "I can live for two months on a good compliment." All of us crave for positive affirmations in life, especially affirmations from those who matter. Praise has a strong power over our performance, effectiveness and happiness. We become what we are encouraged to become. People influence and inspire us by their words.

A person with high self-esteem and self-acceptance doesn't bother about the praises of others. He is contented and happy with the way he is and the opinions of others have very little impact on him. But for most of us a word of appreciation from our superiors and colleagues is a balm that can cure, inspire and encourage us to perform better.

However, we need to earn our applause through hard work. Praises will come if we are honest and hardworking. Don't wait for others to praise you and appreciate you but do your best and the praises and recognition will follow soon.

We are afraid of criticisms both just and unjust ones. We protest against unjust remarks but accept very gladly unearned applause. There are some of us who glow in the toil and labour of others. We do nothing to earn praises by ourselves but grab the praises from others.

We are the products of the praises and encouragements we received from our parents, teachers and relations. As we grow up, however, instead of freeing ourselves of this bondage of looking for praises, we begin to look for praises and appreciation whenever we do something good and we become less effective if we don't find praises on the way. We are so much addicted to praise that we do everything for praise.

Praises are important.

1. It makes us more innovative and creative
Praises can create an innovative, productive and friendly work atmosphere. When people are appreciated they become more positive and productive and they lead a happy life. Innovation and creativity will flourish only in the absence of fear. Praise assures the absence of fear. When people are praised for their effort and are appreciated for their sincere labour they become more innovative and creative.

2. It makes us more positive and self-confident
Both the one who gives praises and the one who receives praises become positive persons. It may be a word in the ear, a smile, an affirmative look that is all needed to give the employee that self- onfidence. It's never expensive but contributes greatly to our organisations. We become people of positive self-esteem and become excellent assets. Praise from others is the nourishment for our desire for self-esteem.

3. It improves our productivity
Praise is not a shallow blah blah; it has a purpose as to improve employee morale and productivity. Use your praises when people accomplish something; praise them even when they fail so that they do better in future. If you want that magic to happen in your company then the magic word to use is praise. Praise is priceless and it doesn't cost anything to your company. But if you don't use it then you may lose a treasure.

How to praise?

1. Praise generously
Be generous with your praises. Praise your employees and colleagues. They deserve it. But never be partial in praising only your friends; be consistent, impartial and fair in the use of praises. Praise your employees and their hard work. Praise them for their personal gifts to the organisation and praise them for their contributions.

2. Be credible and sincere in your praises
A phony praise will have an adverse effect and will de-motivate them. Praise undeserved is a satire in disguise. Respect the uniqueness of everyone. Recognize their contribution and individuality and praise sincerely. Also praising an employee too often lowers down its importance.

3. Praise in public
Praise in public but punish in private. This is very important. Any corrections should always be given in private. We can praise a person face to face, through a formal letter, an email, a phone call, by writing a note of appreciation or by saying a thank you etc. but the best way is to praise them in public.

4. Use praise as a motivator
Recognising a person's success and effort is one of the best motivators. Only a motivated person can make things happen. When we respect and recognize we tell them that they matter to us and are important in our organisation. This is the greatest motivator. A word of encouragement especially in the moment of failure is worth more than a whole volume of praise after a success.

5. Use praises fairly
Treat all fairly. No place for bullying and for discriminations of any sort while praising people. Greet people when you meet them. Say `thank you', `please', `sorry' etc. These may look simple behaviours but make significant difference in our lives and in the way we think and feel about our work. Praise a person who comes on time, who never gossips, who is never absent and who sees positive in everyone. Praise only those who deserve; remember he who praises everybody praises nobody.

According to William James, the great psychologist and philosopher, what every genuine person craves for most in life is praise. People are ready to sacrifice their lives for praise, honour and recognition.

Often we wait for people to die to praise them. Begin to praise them when they are alive.

Joshy Thomas


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Wherever You Are, Be There

One of the major reasons why we fail to find happiness or to create unique lifestyle is because we have not yet mastered the art of being.

While we are home our thoughts are still absorbed with solving the challenges we face at the office. And when we are at the office we find ourselves worrying about problems at home.

We go through the day without really listening to what others are saying to us. We may be hearing the words, but we aren't absorbing the message.

As we go through the day we find ourselves focusing on past experiences or future possibilities. We are so involved in yesterday and tomorrow that we never even notice that today is slipping by.

We go through the day rather than getting something from the day. We are everywhere at any given moment in time except living in that moment in time.

Lifestyle is learning to be wherever you are. It is developing a unique focus on the current moment, and drawing from it all of the substance and wealth of experience and emotions that it has to offer. Lifestyle is taking time to watch a sunset. Lifestyle is listening to silence. Lifestyle is capturing each moment so that it becomes a new part of what we are and of what we are in the process of becoming. Lifestyle is not something we do; it is something we experience. And until we learn to be there, we will never master the art of living well.

To Your Success,
Jim Rohn


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Run Through The Rain

A little girl had been shopping with her Mom in Target. She must have been 6 years old, this beautiful red haired, freckle faced image of innocence.

It was pouring outside. The kind of rain that gushes over the top of rain gutters, so much in a hurry to hit the earth it has no time to flow down the spout. We all stood there under the awning and just inside the door of the Target.

We waited, some patiently, others irritated because nature messed up their hurried day. I am always mesmerized by rainfall. I got lost in the sound and sight of the heavens washing away the dirt and dust of the world. Memories of running, splashing so carefree as a child came pouring in as a welcome reprieve from the worries of my day.

The little voice was so sweet as it broke the hypnotic trance we were all caught in, "Mom, let's run through the rain," she said.

"What?" Mom asked.

"Let's run through the rain!" She repeated.

"No, honey. We'll wait until it slows down a bit," Mom replied.

This young child waited about another minute and repeated, "Mom, let's run through the rain."

"We'll get soaked if we do," Mom said.

"No, we won't, Mom. That's not what you said this morning," the young girl said as she tugged at her Mom's arm.

"This morning? When did I say we could run through the rain and not get wet?"

"Don't you remember? When you were talking to Daddy about his cancer, you said, 'If God can get us through this, he can get us through anything!'"

The entire crowd stopped dead silent. I swear you couldn't hear anything but the rain. We all stood silently. No one came or left in the next few minutes.

Mom paused and thought for a moment about what she would say. Now some would laugh it off and scold her for being silly. Some might even ignore what was said. But this was a moment of affirmation in a young child's life. A time when innocent trust can be nurtured so that it will bloom into faith.

"Honey, you are absolutely right. Let's run through the rain. If God let's us get wet, well maybe we just needed washing," Mom said.

Then off they ran. We all stood watching, smiling and laughing as they darted past the cars and yes, through the puddles. They held their shopping bags over their heads just in case. They got soaked. But they were followed by a few who screamed and laughed like children all the way to their cars.

And yes, I did. I ran. I got wet. I needed washing.

Circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health But no one can ever take away your precious memories... So, don't forget to make time and take opportunities to make memories everyday. To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under heaven.
I HOPE YOU STILL TAKE THE TIME TO RUN THROUGH THE RAIN.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them. Send this to the people you'll never forget and remember to also send it to the person who sent it to you. It's a short message to let them know that you'll never forget them.

Take the time to live!!!

Keep in touch with your friends, you never know when you'll need each other -- and don't forget to run in the rain!


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Would You Recognize Success If It Bit You On the Nose?

What if you were to look at your life from the perspective of what you have already achieved instead of what you haven't yet achieved?

What if you are already experiencing high levels of abundance, prosperity and success and they are not something "out there" in the far distance that you need to desperately chase after and capture?

While it's important to strive to achieve your ever-evolving goals, dreams and visions, don't get so caught up in chasing after them that you miss out on the joys, achievements and blessings of your life in the here and now.

If you can't savor your life as it is right now and have fallen into the habit of focusing on what is lacking, what is not working well and what you are striving to accomplish, then you are setting yourself up for failure rather than success.

Why? Because most of life is made up of journeying towards destinations rather than arriving at them. Find joy in the journey. If you cannot do this you are unlikely to suddenly experience happiness when you reach one of your destinations.

Are your goals and efforts to achieve them improving the quality of your journey by making you a happier, more focused and productive person?

Or is your quest for success causing you to view your current circumstances as weak, bad, stressful and unwanted ?

Ultimately, it is your inner attitudes and not your outer achievements that will determine the quality of your life both here and now and in the future.

I encourage you to make the choice to enjoy and be grateful for the successes and blessings of your current situation. Otherwise, you just might find yourself unable recognize success in the future, even if it bit you on the nose!

by Cynthia Lee


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Who You Are

You are strong... when you take your grief

and teach it to smile.

You are brave... when you overcome your fear

and help others to do the same.

You are happy... when you see a flower

and are thankful for the blessing.

You are loving... when your own pain does not

blind you to the pain of others.

You are wise... when you know the limits of

your wisdom.

You are true... when you admit there are times

you fool yourself.

You are alive... when tomorrow's hope means

more to you than yesterday's mistake.

You are growing... when you know what you are

but not what you will become.

You are free... when you are in control of yourself

and do not wish to control others.

You are honorable... when you find your honor is

to honor others.

You are generous... when you can take as sweetly

as you can give.

You are humble... when you do not know

how humble you are.

You are thoughtful... when you see me just as I am

and treat me just as you are.

You are merciful... when you forgive in others

the faults you condemn in yourself.

You are beautiful... when you don't need a mirror

to tell you.

You are rich... when you never need more than

what you have.

You are you... when you are at peace with

who you are not.

**********
NISHA NAIR


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Life is Our Greatest Teacher

It is not necessary to empty ourselves completely; only important to remove the barriers between yourself and the world around you.

These are the emotional and physical walls all of us construct to protect us from love, caring, pain, suffering, attachment...

To be receptive is to simply open the door of your mind and heart and feel your energy and soul blend with the world around you.

Open, compassionate and non-judgmental are all part of the same circle. Each one needs the other.

Look at every person and each situation as if it were the first time. Begin your own thought process as if you were a blank slate.

Imagine yourself as that person and think of how you can offer kindness instead of judgment. Your compassion may be the only light for one drowning in the darkness of despair.

The Chinese concept of Wu Wei is often mistakenly translated as "non action". The true meaning is "doing nothing to disturb the spontaneous flow of things" and is the foundation of Taoism.

Become the conduit of the flow of energy and ideas instead of a roadblock. Use your intuition - when something doesn't feel right, find another path.

You will know in your heart when your Chi/vital energy is in line with the Great Universal.

No one said it would be easy. You may never do it all and since life is an endless process, you will never be done. But that's not important.

Being the best person you can be and making the world around you a better place for all is not a job with a beginning or end. It is an perpetual flow that we hopefully get better at as our experience grows.

Only you can know your feelings and they are the sum you as the microcosm of the universe. Know yourself and you will discover a deeper meaning to your existence.

Most of all, remember these are simply the thoughts of one seeking the meaning of his own life.

Edward


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The Greatest Rewards

All of us have two distinct choices to make about what we will accomplish in our lives.

The first choice we can make is to be less than we have the capacity to be. To earn less, have less, read less and think less. To make less effort and practice less discipline.

These are the choices leading to an empty life. These are the choices leading to a life of constant apprehension instead of a life of wondrous anticipation.

Our second choice is to do it all, to become all that we can possibly be. To read every book we possibly can, to give and share as much as we possibly can. To strive, produce and accomplish as much as we possibly can.

We have the choice to do or not to do. To be all or to be less.

In the same manner the mighty oak reaches toward the sky, we have the worthy challenge to stretch upward and outward to the full measure of our capabilities. What would happen if we did all we can, every moment we can, the best we can, for as long as we can? What do you think we could be, do and have?

Our ultimate life objective should be to create as much as our talent, ability and desire will permit us to create. To settle for less is to fail in this worthiest of undertakings. What if original sin is the failure to live up to our God given potential?

Results are the best measurement of human progress -- not conversation, not explanation and not justification. Results! If our results are less than our potential suggests, we must strive to become more today than we were yesterday.

The greatest rewards are always reserved for those who bring the greatest value to themselves and the world around them as a result of who and what they have become.

The choice is yours!


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Rubber-Ball Theory of Career and Growth

Rubber-Ball Theory of Career and Growth

Growth in our career and even our personal growth is like a "rubber ball". Height of your growth is based on your hard work, like a maximum height that can be reached by a rubber ball is decided by the vigor with which you through the ball in the air. Once it reaches the maximum height, it will start its downward journey, like a bad time is our personal life. It will continue to fall, inch-by-inch, like our bad days, from worse to worst, until and unless it reaches the bottom and touches the ground and then only it will "bounce back".

Take the examples of Lance Armstrong (USA), Amitabh Bhachan (India) and Michael Jackson (USA), there was time in their life when each passing day was worse then death, but they bounced back. At the time of struggle and trail most of the time, we give-up, but we forget that good days or bad days and all days will pass away and we must continue to give our best, each time, every time, all the time.

What do you think about it? I am awaiting your inputs, your feedback.

Have a great day and take care.

Keep Smiling. Keep Growing.

Regards
Sanjeev Sharma


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Four Core Values that Guarantee Success

Four Core Values that Guarantee Success
Chris Widener

I had the privilege this past Saturday of speaking just before former United Nations Ambassador and Presidential Candidate, Alan Keyes at a leadership conference in Whistler, British Columbia.

Ambassador Keyes gave a brilliant speech as usual and challenged the audience with the idea that the only way people, businesses, organizations, and even countries make lasting impact is by operating out of core values and bedrock principles.

This got me to thinking about how successful people become so by living out of core values. In doing so, they provide for themselves the foundation for successful lives that make a difference, not only for themselves, but for others as well.

So what are the core values that I have seen in the many successful people that I have worked with through the years? Here are four core values that virtually guarantee your success:

They are honest.
The successful people I have worked with are certainly not blatantly dishonest. Neither are they corner-cutters or "little-white-lie-tellers." In fact, I have found that the truly successful are entirely honest. They have no problems with the truth. They stand on it and declare it.

Being on honest person takes being at ease with and confident of yourself. It requires a trust that no matter what the truth may bring, things will turn out for the best. When you are confident of yourself and know that the best will turn out, you have no problem telling the truth at all times.

This brings you to a place where people know the real you. It allows them to follow you with assurance. It strengthens relationships, upon which your success rests. It allows you to look yourself in the mirror and see the same person in the mirror that is standing on the floor before it. This builds on itself and enables you to be even more confident and move even more quickly toward your successful future.

Make a commitment to being honest and you make a commitment to your own success.

They are givers, not takers.

The successful people I have worked with have achieved extraordinarily. This includes great families, world records, spiritual abundance, and material wealth. But they didn't set out to go and get it at all costs. Instead, they set their minds and wills upon serving others the best they could. They realized one of the most universal principles in the world: you reap what you sow. They know that when the give to others, others give back. The reverse is true as well. When you take from others, they try to keep what you are trying to take.

Make a commitment to being a giver and not a taker, and you are making a commitment to your own success.

They are bust-their-tails, hard workers. Very few people become successful without hard work. Granted, in our "play the lotto" culture, we desire success without work, but history shows that the people who achieve the most success have as a core value the desire to work hard.

One point: They don't just work hard in order to get the return, though they do indeed do that. They also work hard because they believe in hard work as an ethic and value. They know and appreciate that hard work produces character in them, excellence in their product, and satisfaction for those who benefit from their work. So they operate out of the value of hard work.

Make a commitment to hard work and you make a commitment to your own success.

They do what is right.

Successful people are people with a core, people with a rod of strength and integrity that runs right through them. It causes them to see that this world of ours needs people who will do what is right, play by the rules, fight for what is true and still take time to care for the little guy and the underdog. Yes, good guys do finish first after all. And when, on those few occasions they don't, they decide that they would still do it the same way all over again. Why? Because it is the right thing to do. Believe it or not, even with all of the scandalous behavior that we read about in the newspapers every day, good people are still the backbone of society. They are what make it work and make it benefit everyone.

Make a commitment to doing what is right, and you make a commitment to your own success.

Sure there are lots of values that we should strive to hold on to, but start with these four and you will be well on your way to achieving the kind of life that you desire!


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Small Opportunities

Success rarely comes from making just a few big efforts. Success almost always is the result of small efforts multiplied again and again.

Small, simple acts can reliably lead to big, magnificent achievements. It's just a matter of putting enough of those small, simple actions together in the same direction.

Right now, in this moment, is your opportunity to take one small step toward whatever goal you have set for yourself. In the next moment, there will be another such opportunity, and another and another as time goes on.

Achievement belongs to those who make wise and productive use of time as it comes. Achievement comes from those who understand that small opportunities can lead to big results.

Those small opportunities are everywhere, and you don't have to beg or plead with anyone to give you access to them. You simply have to see the potential they represent, and then take action.

Each time you see the opportunity to take one small step, by all means take it. And soon you'll be racing far ahead.

-- Ralph Marston
http://greatday.com/motivate/index.html


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Tea Time

"The Vietnamese Buddhist monk and philosopher, Thich Nhat Hanh, writes about enjoying a good cup of tea... You must be completed awake in the present to enjoy the tea. Only in the awareness of the present can your hands feel the pleasnant warmth of the cup. Only in the present can you savor the aroma, taste the sweetness, and appreciate the delicacy. If you are ruminating about the past or worrying about the future, you will completely miss the experience of enjoying the cup of tea. You will look down at the cup and the tea will be gone.

Life is like that. If you are not fully in the present, you will look around and it will be gone. You will have missed the feel, the aroma, the delicacy and beauty of life. It will seem to be speeding past you. The past is finished. Learn from it and let it go. The future is not even here yet. Plan for it, but do not waste your time worrying about it. Worrying is worthless. When you stop ruminating about what has already happened, when you stop worrying about what might never happen, then you will be in the present moment. Then you will begin to experience joy in life."


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